Social Media

     If our youth was negatively affected by anything it would be: Social Media. First, everyday somebody posts a "selfie" on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, for what? The comments. Now and days much of our youth decides that they will focus on the way they look based on what others say. Why is it we turn ourselves over to the world to judge? Is it not enough to be judged by people on the streets. Feeling good about ourselves should be based on our personal feelings, not on the world and how they feel we look. As I've mentioned before; no one will ever please everyone since we have our own opinions we're titled to. I am guilty of posting a "selfie" here and there to feel good but I post it for enjoyment and less of thoughts and opinions. Second, a pretty common occurrence in headlines is suicide over cyber bullying. Using social media can be dangerous, it can lead to so many bad things. However, choosing to sit there and take it is your own fault. Not saying you should fight back (not recommending that at all) but I do suggest to ignore it, maybe delete what you said, don't make it a big deal. Finally, social media has pretty much taken over our youths lives. Each day they need to update Facebook, they need to tweet song lyrics, they need to post what they're eating on Instagram. It really shouldn't be this way, I get enjoying yourself with social media; watching vines, liking photos, sharing memories. Although, remember there is still a world out there that is ready to be lived. Overall, sometimes the best way to solve all of this, is the off button. Especially, when cyber bullying occurs; don't put up with it just power your device down and ignore it. It's not always that easy but it is worth a shot. Get out and enjoy life, have fun, and don't worry about what people on Social Media have to say. 

Cheers,

Brooke

Don't Lose Sight On Your Goals

     Don't lose something because of what ifs, it truly will hurt in the end. Whether it's love related, job related, or anything in between, don't let it slip from your hands because you are focused on the 'what if's'. Those thoughts of 'what if I'm not good enough?' 'What if he/she says no?' can hold you back from something amazing. Make a effort to avoid them, think more positively. What could be the worse if that person you like doesn't like you that way back? It will hurt to hear no but at least you have the closure that you did know how things would of went. You can think you're not good enough, but someone else may think you fit what they need perfectly. However, you didn't take up that chance because you were too worried about what would happen. Later on you will notice that those 'what if's' made bigger impacts on you then you thought. What is a life without a little risk? 
    Being nervous is perfectly normal. But being nervous shouldn't stop us from going after what we want. Try to fill your mind with more positive things, don't sit back and watch things pass in front of you because you got scared. This is defiantly easier said then done. To this day I regret not asking someone I had feelings for because of the what if's. Instead of focusing on negativity like everyone else, stand out and focus on the positives that may come your way. It's okay to be turned down, something better will lay ahead of you. 
     That's another thing you will get from challenging the what if's. Being turned down may/will happen to you, but you can only expect something better to come after. So don't get negative because things didn't work out the way you wished they would of. Just focus on having a positive outcome later down the road. 
      I agree this will be something hard, but remember to always stay positive. You only live once, if you live it right the first time you don't need a second time.

Stay Positive, 

Brooke

Failure is not always bad

Through life we struggle with failure, sometimes that isn't a bad thing. For example, you just failed your math test, you can sit back and do nothing and take the failure, or you can use that failure to lead to a success. Sure, failure sounds bad and how could it make success? Well if you learn from the failure it can teach you how to be better. Use your failure to lead to something better, sitting back isn't going to get you too far. However, it's not always so easy to just pick up from a failure, but keep trying. Remember your resources; if it's school related you will have your teacher, book, sometimes online review. If it is a problem in life, use your family and friends to help. It takes time, you may meet other failures before you are able to meet the success you want. Just remember you aren't alone, and there are others out there that can help you achieve success. Next time you fail say to yourself; 'I will do better next time' instead of 'I am failure'. 

~ Cheers, Brooke

Not The Answer

This is for anyone who is thinking about self-harm or has done it already:

Self-harm is not the answer to whatever you are facing right now. Think about it, the scars of whatever you do are forever lasting, both mentally & physically. This is just a problem that will pass by, it won’t be around forever. Even if it is around mentally forever, you can’t let it set you back to hurt yourself. You are only making the problem at hand harder to deal with. Once you harm yourself and someone finds out, they might leave you, truthfully they probably will leave you. Some will stick around though, but harming yourself is not the way to find your ‘true’ friends. Once you make the first mark, you will get addicted. The endorphins in your brain will make you believe that you are relaxed, but what happens when that relaxation falls? You go right into regret mode, making yourself do it again. Becoming a circle that can’t be broken. There is someone out there that does love you, who wants to help you. Right now, that can be hard to believe. Just don’t give up yet, there is so much more. It truly gets better once it passes, but then when it passes your main reason to hurt is because of regret, putting you back in the process. Focus on the people who love you, don’t focus on whatever tools you use to hurt yourself. Those tools could never love or care about you like a real person would. Keep your head up, and always remember to stay strong!

{P.S. This isn’t just from online sources, I know what it was like and I learned through family, friends, and church that self-harm is never worth it. It will definitely be very difficult to stop in the beginning, and it’s okay to relapse but just keep your goal to stop in mind.}

Stay Strong,

Brooke

Love who you are..

One thing that I notice a lot is the lack of confidence that people have in their bodies and appearance, because someone called them 'fat' or someone said their 'ugly'. You shouldn't be so focused on pleasing everyone. Let's face it; no one in the world is loved by everyone, there is still haters even if we don't see it day to day. Everyone is based to their own opinion, but you don't have to listen to their opinion, and shouldn't. When looking at yourself in the mirror take in everything, don't just look and feel bad because you don't fit societies standards. Society is a kind of  test, seeing how strong you really are. If you fail the test, you'll probably feel terrible for a majority of your life. However, if you pass the test, you can move on with confidence and a smile. It's just a matter of using that on and off switch: turning off the negative stuff, and turning on the positive stuff. If you just take the time to realize that not everyone will be satisfied by who you are, you may just start to realize how beautiful you really are.

Sure, this may take some time to fully be confident and love yourself. Although, it is 100% worth it in the end. Start by surrounding yourself with people who you can talk to about this. Having a strong group of supportive friends can make things a little easier. Next, when you see a photo or video that upsets you, turn it off. Focusing on something that upsets you isn't healthy to a good confidence level. Finally, always remember when you feel bad because someone calls you a name, just think; not everyone likes how that person looks either. In the end, if you work on building a strong confidence it can make life much easier, since we only live one time, we should make it count! 

~ Cheers, Brooke

My First Post

       I wanna make this blog dedicated to my goals of becoming a motivational speaker. Each day I am going to try to post something motivational. In hopes to encourage anyone who reads it to be motivated to do whatever it is they want to achieve, or maybe get over something that may be bothering them, or maybe just encourage them to become a leader, and help others make better decision and help. I hope everyone can benefit from this blog, and can share to others to help them.

Hopefully you stick around for more!

~ Cheers, Brooke